Monday, June 3, 2013

Finding Time for "Us" in an "Others" World

Being the wife of an officer can present many challenges, but one of the biggest I've discovered, is finding time to be "us" in an "others" world.

What do I mean by that?  It seems as if everybody and anybody needs the time and attention of my man.  A normal work week for him may look like seventy plus hours, leaving little quality time for the two of us. Then when he is home there are lawns to mow, repairs to be made, elderly parents to appease, meetings to attend, friends to entertain, and family outings to be a part of.  But where does that leave time for the two of us...alone?  Sigh.

After twenty-five years of this, I've come to the conclusion that it's just something you have to fight for.  Whether you are a calendar fanatic and must have it written in a boxed-in square, or noted multiple places and programmed into your phone for reminders, it must take place.

Look at it this way...your career, though important, is not the most important thing.  It can be replaced.  Your children will grow up and leave...hopefully.  But your spouse, well, he or she is there until your dying breath (or should be).  So carve out time for them.  Groom the relationship.  Stir up the feelings you once had for each other.  Find time to do the things you love...together.

Proverbs 5:18 says, "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth."

God takes marriage seriously, and wants us to take pleasure in our spouse.  He or she should be our confidant, our friend, our greatest cheerleader and our support.  Making time for one another is an important step to deepening that relationship. 

So what are you waiting for?  Make time today to show that special someone that you care.  Believe me, the kids won't suffer if mom and dad have some alone time.  The phone can be put on silent.  Your emails can wait.  Grandma can come back another day.  Today, your spouse needs to know that he or she is number one.

Who knows...you may just come back with a smile on your face and a spring in your step. ;)

Blessings,
Kristi





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